Broken Bone Analogy

When a person breaks a bone, often times the bone doesn't break cleanly, it breaks in an uneven way or completely separates and lies wrong with in the muscles and tendons that encase it. When that happens, if you're lucky (and have health insurance unlike myself) a professional will see the injury for what it is (with the help of experience and tools like an x ray machine) the medical professional will recogonize that the break was not clean, or not laying right and will then 'set' the bone. Place it back where it belongs so the healing process can begin. If you're not lucky the break is ethier not 'set' or worse yet not even recognized as a break or cared for properly.
The human body is an amazing thing though, it WILL try and heal it self in whatever way it can. That injury can be set wrong, or off, or whatever, and the body will STILL lay down new bone material, it will attempt to mend the break and heal the injury.
If however it wasn't set it can heal wrong. Bone will grow, but it will not be where it is truly needed and the resulting regrowth will be weak and prone to pain, re-injury and even infection.
The human spirit is also an amazing thing. It WILL try and heal itself no matter what, but if what is ailing you is not of a physical nature but a spiritual or emotional problem the 'bad breaks' can be a LOT harder to spot. There is no x-ray of the soul, and a lot fewer experts in healing broken hearts and wounded spirits.
God's laws are eternal laws, unbreakable and omnipresent. Just like our bodies, our spirits have amazing recuperative powers, but like our bodies if injuries and problems are not caught and seen to when they occur they can cause us a world of hurt later on.
Like our broken bones there are times when an old wound must be reexamined and often opened up so it can heal properly. That broken bone I spoke of? That break that didn't heal right? Well just about the only way to heal it after it has regrown incorrectly, is to break the bone again, break it again and then 'set' it right so it can finally heal the correct way, wholly and fully and as it was intended.
Our hearts and spirits are no different. There are times when we have to 'break' the bond that is not right so that it can be 'set' right and allowed to heal.
It hurts, a lot. It hurts at least as much as re-breaking a badly healed bone so it can heal again. No one likes to open old wounds that seem nice and neatly hidden. Much like that bone is hidden away from view. If we cannot see the bad break and do not pay attention to the signs that the injury is serious we can(and do) ignore it and pretend nothing is wrong.
Something is wrong however and must be mended if we want to be whole.
Our Spirits cry out for happiness and whollness, like our bodies cry out for health and fitness. Also like Doctors of the body, our spirits can need 'professional' help. Someone in tune with our hearts and souls that can tell us there's something not right. A person whether it be a 'Doctor' or church leader or qualified friend or family member. A person who can look into our hearts and see those 'bad breaks' and can teach us how to re-break and 'set' the wrong right so we can finally heal.
The laws that govern or bodies are no different than the laws that govern our spirits. His laws are the same yesterday today and tomorrow. Just because we don't yet understand the sub-atomic particles that make up the human spirit doesn't mean the don't exist and that they are not governed by the same changeless laws molecules, atoms and the rest of creation are.
That is my great lesson of eternity I recently put into words. If something is broken, fix it. If it has been broken for a long time and healed 'wrong' re-examine it and if necessary re-break so you can 'set' it right and you can finally heal fully and wholly.
I believe this to be true with all of my heart and wanted to share it with you.
Do not 'choose not to choose'. Don't. Be brave enough to take a long hard look at what is paining you and do what it takes to to heal yourself. He is there and can heal what you cannot, you just have to be willing to be humble enough to not only ask for help but be willing to receive it.
I hope this helps someone out there some where. Two very dear friends have already told me this helped them immensely. It's why I came up with it, because someone I loved was in pain and I wanted to help her understand that the choice she made, although very painful had been the best and most generous thing she could have done.
Be well and 'physicial heal thyself'!